So here’s a topic I was pondering on last night. I’ve noticed words flow freely and better into my head when I’m a little bit sobber…lol, nevertheless it has nothing to do with this topic. Hehe
So while sailing in my boat of thoughts, I began reminiscing on one of the lessons I had learnt and still trying to work on, in my not so old life. This lesson is about becoming a person of your word. We currently live in a generation where every and anything goes, where people are so much driven by money, success, status, reputation, fame and a name that they forget these things have fundamental building blocks, which most times seem infinitesimal. The truth and fact when it comes to erecting a building is that without the building blocks (the right building blocks to be precise), there can’t be any building. One of the building blocks I’ll be focusing on, in this context is you “Being a person of your word”.
Your words are very powerful and have the ability to make or mar you as a person. Once you give your word, people grasp unto it like a metal object would do to a magnet, anticipating its fulfillment. Also just like a little child who waits earnestly to see if daddy or mummy fulfills their promise. If you’ve noticed, when the parent in question fulfills his/her promises, the child usually tends to trust, love and defend that parent more whenever the need arises, but does the opposite when the parent defaults. Now, this is exactly what plays out when we give our word and it doesn’t match up with our actions.
God Himself, who is the perfect example that we are all urged to emulate, is a God of integrity and a God who keeps to His words. The bible records that His words never return to him empty without accomplishing the purpose for which it was sent, it also records that this same God honors His word more than His name and my own perspective to this is that; He honors His word more than His name because His word is the fundamental building block for His name. Without His word, He has no name. Also, if He honored His name more than His words, He may probably get too carried away and not fulfill those words, thus causing His name to be inconsequential and not befitting.
Your words either build or mar your reputation, so it is left for you to make the choice to start or keep on being a person of your word. There may be instances when impromptu engagements come up and you may have to bend your word. Such cases occur and are actually inevitable but can be handled properly without denting your reputation. How? The answer is quite simple; Communicate!. When you find yourself in such situation, notify the receiving end as soon as possible, apologize and let them know about the impromptu engagement so that they are not left floating or thinking that you care less about their own interest. Then, re-validate your word, if you have to and try as much as possible to ensure that it doesn’t become a routine.
Finally before I round up, I’ll share with you 4 things that may happen when you don’t keep to your words.
- People lose their trust and tend to never take you seriously, even when you are actually serious. It is important to note that TRUST is one of the hardest things to re-build in life. Just like a smooth paper when rumpled, cannot attain its perfect initial state when trying to straighten it out.
- The reputation, name, as well as your brand (who you are perceived as) which you probably must have tried to build, begins to depreciate in value until there’s no value left.
- Great opportunities pass you by with the speed of light. Basically, opportunities are lost as a result of not keeping to your words. For instance, a scenario in which a person who perceives you to one without integrity, turns out to be the one giving referrals about people in your field. You’ll automatically lose out because he/she won’t be able to vouch for you and subsequently refer you.
- The last but not the least. The feedback you’d receive would be unsavory and this most likely will cause some form of insecurity in you, as well as frustration and lack of peace of mind. It may cause you to begin to underestimate yourself and feel “not enough”.
It is better for you not to give your word at all, than to give it and not fulfill it. Let integrity be one of your key watch words in life. It goes a lonnnnnnng way!
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~ Mary Agaruwa
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